You see we women ‘including me’ in general just love to always play the gender game or the victim. Even if we have men who try their best, some of us will still make the situation seems we are the only or most hardworking and supportive partners at the least opportunity given to us.
So it’s making it hard to come across men who put aside their typical traditional marriage rules aside and help at home perform some duties.
But we still have some who understand very well that times have changed so they try to adjust to our demands and save the moment in their own small ways by exhibiting some cool character.
I preach feminism because I hate to be cheated because I hate see any woman chested by a man in all areas of life but then again somethings are just what they are, can’t be changed, hence we just have to continue to put in the efforts, hope and wish for the better. Gradually we shall get there.
Believe me, if we take the issue of gender equality from our marriages, most couples will still stay beautiful together. My dear just do what you can do, talk to him in a soft spoken manner if he has the fear of God in him and loves you because of God, he will gladly do it to the admiration of everyone around you and even in their presence.
Typical of us women and the world at large, this picture of a husband bathing his new born will never get the attention of the usual plenty shares and overly dramatic comments like “awww” “wow” and “oh what a woman can do, a man can do and even better” as compared to a picture of a woman practising carpentry or mechanical engineering. Oh yea! That’s the truth!
99% of the time, men have ego issues but on the other hand there are some men who are making that constant change, efforts and playing the unusual roles which ideally a typical man born of a woman with his high Ego on high clouds will do, trust me.
A lot of men have Ego issues so they will never go down to the level of doing what in their minds is supposed to be a woman’s to do but this picture depicts the opposite.
Like “how the hell should I do this when I never saw my father do it when we were kids, it’s was my mother’s job to do”, in a typical man’s voice.
This is the line that’s killing most of our beautiful relationship and marriages. This particular line and mindset is what’s preventing so many marriages to be great and long lasting.
Some husbands are simply supportive.
Not all men are very demanding. Some men love you with all your troubles and wahala and are ready to go through the motherhood and wifehood hustle with you every step of the way.
Just as there are some terrible wives who make marriages a no go area for men because of their past experiences, I strongly believe the same applies to women.
Most women have husbands like who cook, wash, clean and take care of their kids but their own ways push the men to stop or not do at all.
When we get husbands who treat us like they are under a spell, we tend to become complacent by lazily taking advantage of situation and the man in question.
What women hate to know or see is a man who is head over heels in love with them. That’s when you start seeing misconduct in colours. The consequence messing is a beautiful charactered men by some women is what is not making the world beautiful again.
Most married women deep within their hearts know how supportive their partners have been and how they rock their marriages but will simple not show appreciation.
Good men are not usually written or spoken about here on social media. But there are so many of them.
Truth is, 90% of men, think that once they perform any form of house chores or help their wives do what’s otherwise note as a woman’s duty, they automatically become less of a man.
What they don’t know is so many women fall thousand times again in love from this little act of support especially when it’s coming from a husband or a partner.
Me personally I keep falling again and again anytime is see my hubby bathing or preparing the kids to school. I have had to hide and take him videos and pictures without his knowledge. (Oops! Hope am not caught here)
Husbands who have got a little attribute of what’s being illustrated in this picture need to be appropriately given the accolades, well appreciated and celebrated.
And Oh even if the role your husband plays is not the same, equal or above what’s in this picture, my dear you know very well how much he tries to make it up to you. He’s got his strength in other important ways which makes your life beautiful. Charley, it’s not easy to be a man oo. And to get a good husband is also not easy and vice versa.
See, nobody is trying to do comparison here by comparing what husband A does and what husband B doesn’t do. Nothing like that here. We just want to be grateful and appreciate some of our men.
Here’s to the men who have made our motherhood, wife-hood, career/ professional or entrepreneurial easy and stress free for their women.
Here’s to the men who are changing the narrative of the typical traditional marriage set ups, roles and responsibilities.
Here’s to the men who are selfless, Ego free, God fearing and love their wives like how Prophet Mohammed SAW loved Nana Khadijah.
In this age of social media, from my 10 years on Facebook, I can say about 80% of the time, men, husbands and marriages are run down by bitter woman whom I don’t don’t blame at all because they have their own stories regarding why they feel that way. We can not fault them so let’s move on.
Regardless, this shouldn’t stop us from appreciating the fact that some good men/ husbands still exit. You may not get him 100% just like yourself but there are some good ones out there.
Don’t let any bitter woman confuse you with so much negativity you end up ruining your marriage. The grass can also be green in your house if you water it.
But for some single women, divorcees, married or about to marry, stories about wicked and unsupportive husbands will never get them attracted to the marriage world. They will tell you bluntly how better off they are staying single or divorced.
Without any intention of rubbing it in to spite another woman or show off but for the sake of Allah, let’s celebrate husbands like Naziru, let’s speak confidently and proudly about husbands like Naziru so it will encourage the rest who have spoilt the soup to emulate him.
Writer: Adizah Kuburah Braimah
@the_muslim_woman_achiever
@kuburah_diamonds
themuslimwomanachiever@gmail.com
0242631538
So it’s making it hard to come across men who put aside their typical traditional marriage rules aside and help at home perform some duties.
But we still have some who understand very well that times have changed so they try to adjust to our demands and save the moment in their own small ways by exhibiting some cool character.
I preach feminism because I hate to be cheated because I hate see any woman chested by a man in all areas of life but then again somethings are just what they are, can’t be changed, hence we just have to continue to put in the efforts, hope and wish for the better. Gradually we shall get there.
Believe me, if we take the issue of gender equality from our marriages, most couples will still stay beautiful together. My dear just do what you can do, talk to him in a soft spoken manner if he has the fear of God in him and loves you because of God, he will gladly do it to the admiration of everyone around you and even in their presence.
Typical of us women and the world at large, this picture of a husband bathing his new born will never get the attention of the usual plenty shares and overly dramatic comments like “awww” “wow” and “oh what a woman can do, a man can do and even better” as compared to a picture of a woman practising carpentry or mechanical engineering. Oh yea! That’s the truth!
99% of the time, men have ego issues but on the other hand there are some men who are making that constant change, efforts and playing the unusual roles which ideally a typical man born of a woman with his high Ego on high clouds will do, trust me.
A lot of men have Ego issues so they will never go down to the level of doing what in their minds is supposed to be a woman’s to do but this picture depicts the opposite.
Like “how the hell should I do this when I never saw my father do it when we were kids, it’s was my mother’s job to do”, in a typical man’s voice.
This is the line that’s killing most of our beautiful relationship and marriages. This particular line and mindset is what’s preventing so many marriages to be great and long lasting.
Some husbands are simply supportive.
Not all men are very demanding. Some men love you with all your troubles and wahala and are ready to go through the motherhood and wifehood hustle with you every step of the way.
Just as there are some terrible wives who make marriages a no go area for men because of their past experiences, I strongly believe the same applies to women.
Most women have husbands like who cook, wash, clean and take care of their kids but their own ways push the men to stop or not do at all.
When we get husbands who treat us like they are under a spell, we tend to become complacent by lazily taking advantage of situation and the man in question.
What women hate to know or see is a man who is head over heels in love with them. That’s when you start seeing misconduct in colours. The consequence messing is a beautiful charactered men by some women is what is not making the world beautiful again.
Most married women deep within their hearts know how supportive their partners have been and how they rock their marriages but will simple not show appreciation.
Good men are not usually written or spoken about here on social media. But there are so many of them.
Truth is, 90% of men, think that once they perform any form of house chores or help their wives do what’s otherwise note as a woman’s duty, they automatically become less of a man.
What they don’t know is so many women fall thousand times again in love from this little act of support especially when it’s coming from a husband or a partner.
Me personally I keep falling again and again anytime is see my hubby bathing or preparing the kids to school. I have had to hide and take him videos and pictures without his knowledge. (Oops! Hope am not caught here)
Husbands who have got a little attribute of what’s being illustrated in this picture need to be appropriately given the accolades, well appreciated and celebrated.
And Oh even if the role your husband plays is not the same, equal or above what’s in this picture, my dear you know very well how much he tries to make it up to you. He’s got his strength in other important ways which makes your life beautiful. Charley, it’s not easy to be a man oo. And to get a good husband is also not easy and vice versa.
See, nobody is trying to do comparison here by comparing what husband A does and what husband B doesn’t do. Nothing like that here. We just want to be grateful and appreciate some of our men.
Here’s to the men who have made our motherhood, wife-hood, career/ professional or entrepreneurial easy and stress free for their women.
Here’s to the men who are changing the narrative of the typical traditional marriage set ups, roles and responsibilities.
Here’s to the men who are selfless, Ego free, God fearing and love their wives like how Prophet Mohammed SAW loved Nana Khadijah.
In this age of social media, from my 10 years on Facebook, I can say about 80% of the time, men, husbands and marriages are run down by bitter woman whom I don’t don’t blame at all because they have their own stories regarding why they feel that way. We can not fault them so let’s move on.
Regardless, this shouldn’t stop us from appreciating the fact that some good men/ husbands still exit. You may not get him 100% just like yourself but there are some good ones out there.
Don’t let any bitter woman confuse you with so much negativity you end up ruining your marriage. The grass can also be green in your house if you water it.
But for some single women, divorcees, married or about to marry, stories about wicked and unsupportive husbands will never get them attracted to the marriage world. They will tell you bluntly how better off they are staying single or divorced.
Without any intention of rubbing it in to spite another woman or show off but for the sake of Allah, let’s celebrate husbands like Naziru, let’s speak confidently and proudly about husbands like Naziru so it will encourage the rest who have spoilt the soup to emulate him.
Writer: Adizah Kuburah Braimah
@the_muslim_woman_achiever
@kuburah_diamonds
themuslimwomanachiever@gmail.com
0242631538
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