Some Zongo lifestyles that overshadows the need for proper child upbringing.
Help me understand this if you can. But for me maybe it’s a rocket science so finding it difficult to understand.
How do some of our zongo mothers who always buy yaaye feel when the next morning their wards ask them for anything regarding their wellbeing ie. food, educational necessities etc. and they are not able to provide?
These mothers are able to save monies to buy “yaaye” and other materialistic stuff like gold jewelries just to follow the band wagon of zongo imposed set standard but taking steps which will ensure their children wellbeing is guaranteed means nothing to them.
I wonder who initiated this crap of a lifestyle that allows parents especially women puts their selfish needs ahead of their children just to impress the society. Isn’t it supposed to be the other way round?
I am told by all means the ignorance ones MUST fall for the pressure otherwise they will fall short of a set particular standard which will make them be seen someway.
Ironically, most of our mothers sometimes with the support of our fathers choose Yaaye and having to just to go out there and show off on a day that comes right before a school day knowing very well some basic needs of their child/ children isn’t catered for. For instance:
1. When they know very well they owe school fees, and need to buy some essential books to aid their children educational lessons and exercises.
3. When they are much aware their child/ children school uniform is embarrassingly torn and need to be alternated or changed but will look on the next day without any shame after spending so much on a particular outfit just to attend awure.
3. The feeding fees for a child/ children haven’t been paid for God knows how long and so these innocent kids will attend school alright but when it’s lunch time, you see them isolated or begging their friends to have a spoon or bite of their meals. Don’t come and tell me about School Feeding bla bla.
Every child needs to go to school with a lunch pack or money to buy the snack.
4. When they know very well how irresponsible their husbands are and so reasonably instead of saving whatever money they have on their children, they’d rather waste it.
5. When they know very well, most of these husbands they are married to only strive to be cosmetically called head of the home rather than striving to perform the significant roles in ensuring the proper well being of their families.
6. How sad to know, some husbands from our zongo communities don’t work, all they care and love to do is leave home from morning and go and sit at location and return home late just to come and eat and bind their wives over for sexual pleasure. As to whether, they families are fed and clothed, absolutely non of their business.
Please tell me how, some of our zongo parents think?
Explain to me how they are able to put the educational uprightness of their children aside for their own selfish interest and feel just ok.
Why does it seems like most of the zongo husbands also leave everything on their wives with regards to proper upbringing of their children and anything relating to the home and nobody summons them?
Who watches and sanctions the irresponsible father, mother and parents in our zongo communities?
The recklessness and ignorance on the part of most of these parents is nauseating. Where lies the future of these innocent kids when they are born into a family like this?
How we are always gathered in our numbers at functions during weekends in the various communities looking all Muslim men supremacy, gold and diamonds doesn’t reflect on how most of our children are well catered for especially areas of their eduction. And it’s sad.
Shame on us, we love to place much efforts in things that do not help the betterment of our children, community and Ghana as a whole.
Yaaye means a uniformed cloth prescribed by a any one close to the bride to be and this yaaye is expected to be worn by women that have been invited to the awure (Muslim marriage ceremony).
Note: It is not by force to wear yaaye, however if you do not buy this yaaye how you will be treated at the event is likely to be very different from those who bought it so this puts a lot of pressure on the women to by all means possible look for ways to to buy at the expense of using that money for significant things.
Writer: Adizah Kuburah Braimah
Founder: The Muslim Woman Achiever
kuburahdiamonds.blogspot.com
How do some of our zongo mothers who always buy yaaye feel when the next morning their wards ask them for anything regarding their wellbeing ie. food, educational necessities etc. and they are not able to provide?
These mothers are able to save monies to buy “yaaye” and other materialistic stuff like gold jewelries just to follow the band wagon of zongo imposed set standard but taking steps which will ensure their children wellbeing is guaranteed means nothing to them.
I wonder who initiated this crap of a lifestyle that allows parents especially women puts their selfish needs ahead of their children just to impress the society. Isn’t it supposed to be the other way round?
I am told by all means the ignorance ones MUST fall for the pressure otherwise they will fall short of a set particular standard which will make them be seen someway.
Ironically, most of our mothers sometimes with the support of our fathers choose Yaaye and having to just to go out there and show off on a day that comes right before a school day knowing very well some basic needs of their child/ children isn’t catered for. For instance:
1. When they know very well they owe school fees, and need to buy some essential books to aid their children educational lessons and exercises.
3. When they are much aware their child/ children school uniform is embarrassingly torn and need to be alternated or changed but will look on the next day without any shame after spending so much on a particular outfit just to attend awure.
3. The feeding fees for a child/ children haven’t been paid for God knows how long and so these innocent kids will attend school alright but when it’s lunch time, you see them isolated or begging their friends to have a spoon or bite of their meals. Don’t come and tell me about School Feeding bla bla.
Every child needs to go to school with a lunch pack or money to buy the snack.
4. When they know very well how irresponsible their husbands are and so reasonably instead of saving whatever money they have on their children, they’d rather waste it.
5. When they know very well, most of these husbands they are married to only strive to be cosmetically called head of the home rather than striving to perform the significant roles in ensuring the proper well being of their families.
6. How sad to know, some husbands from our zongo communities don’t work, all they care and love to do is leave home from morning and go and sit at location and return home late just to come and eat and bind their wives over for sexual pleasure. As to whether, they families are fed and clothed, absolutely non of their business.
Please tell me how, some of our zongo parents think?
Explain to me how they are able to put the educational uprightness of their children aside for their own selfish interest and feel just ok.
Why does it seems like most of the zongo husbands also leave everything on their wives with regards to proper upbringing of their children and anything relating to the home and nobody summons them?
Who watches and sanctions the irresponsible father, mother and parents in our zongo communities?
The recklessness and ignorance on the part of most of these parents is nauseating. Where lies the future of these innocent kids when they are born into a family like this?
How we are always gathered in our numbers at functions during weekends in the various communities looking all Muslim men supremacy, gold and diamonds doesn’t reflect on how most of our children are well catered for especially areas of their eduction. And it’s sad.
Shame on us, we love to place much efforts in things that do not help the betterment of our children, community and Ghana as a whole.
Yaaye means a uniformed cloth prescribed by a any one close to the bride to be and this yaaye is expected to be worn by women that have been invited to the awure (Muslim marriage ceremony).
Note: It is not by force to wear yaaye, however if you do not buy this yaaye how you will be treated at the event is likely to be very different from those who bought it so this puts a lot of pressure on the women to by all means possible look for ways to to buy at the expense of using that money for significant things.
Writer: Adizah Kuburah Braimah
Founder: The Muslim Woman Achiever
kuburahdiamonds.blogspot.com
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