Strive To Become Successful Muslim Married Women.

You can become a very successful married Muslim woman working for  someone or running your own business or doing both at the same time but it all depends on you. 

Forget the unrealistic limitations people, society and cultural have tied  around your neck with regards to the saying “a woman’s place is the home and the kitchen.” 

In this century, any Muslim woman who allows this degenerative backward thinking standard get to her to make her also accept that, truly the ultimate achievement for for a woman  in life is to get married without adding any value to herself will do herself a great disservice.  

In Islam, marriage completes your Deen in but our Prophet Mohammed SWA loved hardworking and enterprising women. So why limit yourself so what human beings set as standards? I have seen beautiful marriage hit the ticks because the sole provider of the home who’s the man lost his job.

I have witnessed a man brutally humiliate his wife and her family because he provides for them. 

I have seen married women cheat on their husbands due to exchanging their dignity to get some money to cater for themselves because the man they had hopes on is refusing to fulfill his promises after marriage. 

I have seen family members take over all properties belonging to their sons after his their death leaving their wives  and children with nothing. 

From the real experiences gathered form unemployed married Muslim women, I will advice that you are either focused on your education to gaining an economic empowerment or if your thing is not  education, then learn a skill or trade to make yourself a better woman before you rush into married and if you are in it already, you can always start something. 

Even the men these days, are looking out for futuristic women to settle down with so they can help make their future, lives and their homes better.

I am tired of women complaining about husbands who deny them the opportunity to own beautiful things in life.

I am tired of women facing real hardship in their matrimonial homes just because the man is the sole provider of the home and so decides as and when he deems fit to support or provide for his own wife and children. 

I am tired of hearing women complain that, the men who promised them heaven or earth before they married them and insisted they quit their jobs and business are now treating them like trash because they provide even sanitary pads for them. 

I get teary - eyed upon hearing  stories from women who were ignorant  to believe that, keeping their  certificates in their wardrobe or stopping their business and getting into marriage because they were promised good life without having to work with their hard invested time and effort acquired certificate or also without running their own businesses again by the same men who came  seeking for their hand in marriage with all the sweet assurances of giving them a better life. Marriage is a long journey, nobody knows tomorrow we just hope and pray for the best but there are some chances you don’t take. 

For you to go through such  unpleasant experiences in marriage, I’d rather I tell you this, it’s never too late to change your own story. 

Get yourself together and put in effort to change your story. You don’t need to acquire a degree or masters to start your business. You can also pick back the certificate and go job hunting kits make sure when you get the opportunity bargain for a conducive working times and conditions so it doesn’t affect your marriage, home and kids. 

Be confident, determined, focused, hardworking, resilient and humble. There are so many opportunities around us we just simply refuse to take advantage of them. 

The stories about husbands who are suppose to know and do better for their wives and children irks me. 

Women let’s start a revolution. A revolution to change our own stories. A revolution to be working. A revolution to get employment, own our businesses which will also employ our fellow women without employment.