Financial Empowerment Over Self Pity.

 If he won’t eat the food you sweat by the fire to cook, knife cutting you or hot oil splashing on you, please proceed and eat alone, pray, bath and sleep. If there are kids or a kid eat with them and enjoy. You want to starve over a man who gives no hoot about you?

If he won’t come home early and you are tired of complaining, pray for yourself first to sleep and wake up alive and then pray for him to be safe out there because no matter what if he’s harmed you will feel the pain. But please dont stay all night crying over a man who has no dignity? 

A man who doesn’t stop to think that, you also need some love and cuddles? 

A man who rather than strengthening his family bond, goes about chasing women?

If he is not giving you the money to buy that beautiful thing you want, what’s stopping you from taking the money from your own  salary or the profit you make from running your own business to buy something you love once awhile? Instead of crying for a wish  that will never be fulfilled. 

Incase, you are not working with your educational certificate, what stops you from learning a skill or starting your own business or just venture into a trade with the adequate capital you can get from people who truly care?

Now more than ever, a woman with Mulitiple source of income is the real MVP. 

Dey there and be doing my husband’s money, my husband’s money without taking time to consider some unforeseen life happenings like death, change of attitude, divorce, breakup, loss of wealth etc. 

Add value to yourself woman. His money is your money too but how about having your own money? 

How about creating your own wealth too? 

How about doing something with the school knowledge and  impact you garnered or the passion you have towards a particular skill which can be turned into a business to earn you income?

At the end of the day, if both partners are financially equipped your home is always sweet, your kids are happy with or without any of you around to give financial assistance, your families will be happy about your union too because you both support them in your own capacity without having to rely or wait on the other. You simply the  reduce financial pressure coming from the extended family members on each other.

For how long will you continue to pamper an irresponsible man who thinks about only his interest and what makes him happy?

For how long will you live in self pity and taking blames for what you are innocent about?

For how long will you channel all your energy, good vibes, love, concern, compassion, empathy, time and  efforts for that one person who has refused to acknowledge and appreciate your worth? 

I hope I spoke into your heart? You alone know the truth about your situation, kindly advise yourself! I have written my truth, the onus is on you to make the change in giving yourself happiness because you truly don’t deserve anything less.