SOMETIMES, PARENTS FORCED CHOICE OF MARRIAGE PARTNERS FOR THEIR CHILDREN LEADS TO DIVORCE IN THE LONG RUN!
Do you know that sometimes your parents decision on who you should marry can ruin your marriage?
Regrettably, some people wake up each day cursing their own parent for being the cause of their marriage predicament.
Thing is, no matter how you feel about your parent’s advice/ decision concerning your life even when you leave their home, you are still in no position whatsoever to turn their instruction down?
We have been morally and culturally trained to know that, for us to live long, blessed and hearty we have to obey our parents and it’s an instructive obligation commanded by Almighty Allah in the Holy Quran that our parent must protect us in every way physical, spiritual and moral they can.
Your parent brought you in this world hence it is only in line that they care for you and when you mature you reciprocate. This is what a parent to child and a child to parent obligation means in simple terms.
If there’s any decision we want to take for our own long term interest like marriage, it is the duty of our parent to heartedly approve first in order to give us their blessings. On the other hand, if they disapprove our choice and choose another for us, we have to accept in it good faith without being disrespectful.
But as we mature and decide to take our own decision, it is likely some will be turned down by them so for us not go contrary to the commandment of obedient, we’ve got to accept their choice no regardless how we feel and live on the comfort that, the onus is on them for things to turn out right otherwise the repercussion is on them. Right!
Every parent wish-is the best for their children because they brought us into this world, fed us, educated us till we became who we are. Their advice, guidance and approval of the such critical decision can’t be downplayed.
Unfortunately, this has rather given some parent the opportunity to use it to their own selfish advantage. Instead of telling their children the realities of life about marriage, they rather push them into marriages that seek to flourish their personal gains.
There are several cases where parent who decide who their children marry by all means because of social status, tribe, colour, age, political difference and other factors gone rocky.
Nobody is against a parent that looks out for the well being of their children but can some of you for Allah sake sometimes approve their choice too?
What we forget is that no matter the caliber of a person/ people, human beings in general can show care and concern, act very responsible but until marriage sets in, the true intentions can not be known.
This has in way made young folks fake appearances and lifestyle just to fit into the idle picture of what parents want as husbands/ wives for their children and the later effect is always bad.
Listen, I believe it takes the grace of Allah for anyone to see beyond other people’s appearance and actions.
Some of our sisters/ brothers are back home because of such decisions to forcefully marry whom their parent choose for them.
It’s difficult to push your own children into the mud but sometimes, allow them make their own decision about choosing a partner.
Yours as a parent is to pray, hope and wish them well. Even things do not go well, you still have still have to be there for them.
Your choice or their’s can be the best or worst if Allah wills so let’s always allow critical and logical thinking assessment to take centre stage.
May Allah make it easy and guide us on so we don’t fall in such situations.
Adizah Kuburah Braimah
Regrettably, some people wake up each day cursing their own parent for being the cause of their marriage predicament.
Thing is, no matter how you feel about your parent’s advice/ decision concerning your life even when you leave their home, you are still in no position whatsoever to turn their instruction down?
We have been morally and culturally trained to know that, for us to live long, blessed and hearty we have to obey our parents and it’s an instructive obligation commanded by Almighty Allah in the Holy Quran that our parent must protect us in every way physical, spiritual and moral they can.
Your parent brought you in this world hence it is only in line that they care for you and when you mature you reciprocate. This is what a parent to child and a child to parent obligation means in simple terms.
If there’s any decision we want to take for our own long term interest like marriage, it is the duty of our parent to heartedly approve first in order to give us their blessings. On the other hand, if they disapprove our choice and choose another for us, we have to accept in it good faith without being disrespectful.
But as we mature and decide to take our own decision, it is likely some will be turned down by them so for us not go contrary to the commandment of obedient, we’ve got to accept their choice no regardless how we feel and live on the comfort that, the onus is on them for things to turn out right otherwise the repercussion is on them. Right!
Every parent wish-is the best for their children because they brought us into this world, fed us, educated us till we became who we are. Their advice, guidance and approval of the such critical decision can’t be downplayed.
Unfortunately, this has rather given some parent the opportunity to use it to their own selfish advantage. Instead of telling their children the realities of life about marriage, they rather push them into marriages that seek to flourish their personal gains.
There are several cases where parent who decide who their children marry by all means because of social status, tribe, colour, age, political difference and other factors gone rocky.
Nobody is against a parent that looks out for the well being of their children but can some of you for Allah sake sometimes approve their choice too?
What we forget is that no matter the caliber of a person/ people, human beings in general can show care and concern, act very responsible but until marriage sets in, the true intentions can not be known.
This has in way made young folks fake appearances and lifestyle just to fit into the idle picture of what parents want as husbands/ wives for their children and the later effect is always bad.
Listen, I believe it takes the grace of Allah for anyone to see beyond other people’s appearance and actions.
Some of our sisters/ brothers are back home because of such decisions to forcefully marry whom their parent choose for them.
It’s difficult to push your own children into the mud but sometimes, allow them make their own decision about choosing a partner.
Yours as a parent is to pray, hope and wish them well. Even things do not go well, you still have still have to be there for them.
Your choice or their’s can be the best or worst if Allah wills so let’s always allow critical and logical thinking assessment to take centre stage.
May Allah make it easy and guide us on so we don’t fall in such situations.
Adizah Kuburah Braimah
Comments