What If We Flipped The Script To Favour Women?

You will be amazed by some of the ridiculous answers your get when  you go asking why a man is cheating or want to add another wife. Some men are selfishly standing on the popular phrase that says “a man is a man”  to just guilty trip women.

These are a few silly excuses I have noted.

1. Suddenly, a man is cheating or intends adding a wife, you curiosity self takes you asking why and the first thing you hear is, “oh she’s not attractive anymore”, oh he said she’s not doing what she was doing anymore and oh bla bla and bla bla. But flip the script  and see if a woman decides to go about sleeping with men other than her husband or marry additional husband because her husband is not attractive anymore the world would  hear any peace?

2. Imagine the script was flipped to allow women add 2nd, 3rd or 4th husbands and on top of that, keep one or more “side men” because their husbands aren’t sexually satisfying? 

This is world breaker excuse most men use to intentionally hurt women. But man who truly loves a woman will do things to make her suit his desire what is it about sex that can’t be taught making men use this is an excuse everyday. 

However, speak to a lot of women, and you will find out, women usually even cover up things for men they truly love. You will be surprise to hear that most of  men who go about saying their women don’t satisfy them in bed do not make their women get orgasm in the first place. 

Yes! Most women fake orgasm just to make their partners feel good about themselves in bed but  actually that’s not the reality. 

But upon all the faking of organ for years, this doesn’t in any ways make them decide to cheat with another  man who can make them reach that climax or add another husband.

3. What if women decide to marry additional husbands because they have just grown out of love. Because this is gradually becoming the order of the day. Some men  no matter  how many years of being married, wake up one day and end their marriages without thinking twice because they feel out of love. It happens every time. 

I wonder how these men forget love goes beyond this and are allowed to take such sections without an iota of humanity. 

A week ago I saw on the internet a beautiful married couple who just celebrated their fifty years in marriage and it was just beautiful. Nobody said there was a perfect marriage. Eve thing you value, you work on it to be what you want. Simple!

What happened to marrying your spouse until death do you part? 

What happened to making  sacrifices? 

What happened to loving your partners for the sake of God? 

What happened to being selfless in a relationship? 

What happened to being genuinely nice to your partners even if it hurt you sometimes?

What men forget is that, there are women who also fall fall out of love but how often do we hear stories like a woman is adding another husband because she feels out of love? 

How often do we even hear that women are cheating because they feel out of love?

4. What if husbands were asked to take things in good faith and still live with their wives even after finding out they are not the real fathers of their child/ children? We live in a society where day in day out, men bring in children outside their matrimonial homes  and all there is to be said is for their wives to have patience and accept the kids like their own. Just imagine we flipped the script for women to get pregnant with men outside their matrimonial home? Sometimes, we forget women are humans too right? Culturally, our society have made patriarchy to to be the driving force of everything that involves a man and a woman so decisions are always made to favour the men but let us try and flip the script today and see who will feel pained. 

5. Most women have lived and continue to stay  with abusive, disrespectful I mean very  irresponsible men all their lives but they contain them until it becomes way unbearable before you hear about their ordeal. Some women still live with men who do not provide  for their upkeep but they still faithful and manage to keep their homes without a third party knowing. Even in worse cases, you rarely hear a woman is cheating or divorcing the husband because he doesn’t do what is expected of him as a a husband but let a man complain about these same issues, then the narrative will turn around making the very irresponsible man one would have expected being brought to order to even look good the more because apparently women are suppose to endure more than men and be dedicated to being submissive no matter what. 

Can we flip the script and advice that women retaliate every physical, verbal and emotional abuse meted on them there and there because self defence is not a bad idea?

Can we flip the script and advice women  not to cook and keep the home clean if their husbands don’t provide for them and  the house? 

A man doesn’t give house keeping money, yet when he returns home and there’s no food on the table, he complains and even reports her to her family. And people will actually have the guts to ask the woman why didn’t she prepare food regardless. With who’s money I ask. 

Most men also stop being sweet and loving the moment they become husbands, It’s only a few gentlemen who still continue sending chills down the spine of their women after marriage. Men do become complacent in marriage too but how often do we hear women use these as excuses to jilt or hurt them? So I ask can we flip the script? I am not expecting an answer. 

But just to clearly let some of you know sometimes just sometimes, maybe what’s good for gander might be good for goose so if we are to flip the script and go by the exact ways men handle women the world will not be a safe place?

But hey that can’t happen but I just hope some of you will pulse and think about this. And pray to have  a change of behaviour towards women. Fliping the script to favour women can never happen because women are special vessels. Somethings are just not for us unless she’s a different type of woman. Women are after God’s own heart so we do things right. 

I am yet to meet a woman who doesn’t respect her dignity. I am yet to meet a woman who’s not virtuous, I am yet to meet a woman who’s not supportive of her husband, I am yet to meet a woman who’s not striving to keep her marraiage and home in shape. But this shouldn’t give you the opportunity to use it as our weakness to hurt, demean and downgrade us. Women deserve nothing but pure love. 

Adizah Kuburah Braimah 

Kuburah Diamonds

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